Well, it finally happened. After 14 solid years of parenting and then BOOM!! I have had nightmares about this very incident and vowed to NEVER, EVER let it become a reality. I FORGOT A KID A SCHOOL (enter long sigh). Some who know me may be questioning if it was really intentional and I can vouch for myself and say it was not (this time). On this day life was busy and I lost track of time. The worst part was, my daughter didn’t want to stay after school for archery practice and I convinced her of her duty as part of the team, time would fly by and I would be there right at 4:30 to pick her up. SIKE!!!
Some mothers out there are probably going to bash me over this one and guess what? There is no way anyone will be as hard on me as I have been on myself!! I kicked my own butt on this one. The question is why? Am I not a human? Am I not deserving of forgiveness? Mistakes happen, every day to EVERYONE!! There are mothers who choose to hide it from the world or slip it under the rug and no one is the wiser. Not me, I am calling myself out for a number of reasons. One, I know there are other mothers who are WAY TOO HARD on themselves for not meeting the “expectations” society has set and even more so, the “expectations” they have set for themselves. When did we stop being in the moment and enjoying motherhood? What will it take for us to come together and agree that this is not healthy behavior? We are all freaking amazing parents 98% of the time!
“We fall. We break. We fail. But then, We rise. We heal. We overcome.” ~author unknown
Parenting is by far the hardest job we will ever have. PERIOD. I don’t care if you are the CEO of multi-billion dollar companies, there is no comparison! For you folks that don’t have kids yet and/or may be thinking about having them, I am not trying to deter you. Kids are amazing little balls of energy who bring you more joy than you could ever imagine. They are also assholes at times. Yep, I said it…and I don’t feel bad about it… they KNOW they are!! It’s okay though, you keep pushing through and later you can hopefully look back and laugh at all the times you were ready to literally throat punch them. I would never throat punch a kid but that doesn’t mean I haven’t thought about it…kidding (almost).
My point is, we are all doing the best we can. It’s time to not base our family lives on the lives of others or even the thoughts of others. We love our kids, we love our families and we take care of them the best way we know how but shit happens. If it didn’t, there wouldn’t be t-shirts and bumper stickers that say so. It’s okay to stumble and falter at times and trust me when I say you will be given a plethora of chances to fall short, it’s how we react when that moment happens, and allowing the opportunity to learn from it and grow into an even more awesome Momma! You’ve got this and you have a tribe behind you even when you think you have lost it!! Stop being so hard on yourself and beating yourself up for being human. Embrace the good times with the not so good times and remember ladies, no matter how many times you think you have failed, those sweet babies will be okay and will still love you unconditionally.
*Some pictures on this post are not mine and I do not take credit for them.